The motivational side of EQ: Seven tips for achieving passions and goals
[Part 4 of a 6-part series]
Internal motivation is the third and final aspect of intrapersonal emotional intelligence (EI). We’ve looked at self-regulation and self-awareness. Right up front, let’s be sure to clarify that motivation, as it relates to your emotional quotient (EQ), is all about your passion to strive for excellence, to achieve goals regardless of obstacles, and to stay persistent regardless of external rewards. This has nothing to do with those external incentives we might be offered in the workplace. This is all coming from inside you.
EI guru Daniel Goleman talks about motivation as our master aptitude. Fundamental to strong motivation are:
- Developing strong levels of impulse control and ability to delay gratification
- Controlling our emotions so they don’t negatively affect our thought processes
- Maintaining a level of persistence that enables us to overcome obstacles and setbacks.
An added factor comes from Stanford psychologist Albert Bandura, who finds a direct relationship between our belief in our own abilities and our level of achievement:
“People’s beliefs about their abilities have a profound effect on those abilities. Ability is not a fixed property; there is a huge variation in how you perform. People who have a sense of self-efficacy bounce back from failures; they approach things in terms of how to handle them rather than worrying about what can go wrong.”
Bandura is talking about people who lean toward the optimistic, hopeful side rather than stewing in fear and worry. They have goals that are underscored by their passions. They are looking for the lessons in their failures, and how to get back on course to achieve their goals.
Following is a list of seven steps you can take to gird up your internal motivation and raise your EQ in this third and very important aspect of the intrapersonal dimension:
- Define what you are truly passionate about and set goals based on your passions.
- Set specific goals in writing with dates for achievement and post them where you can see them.
- Clarify why your goals are important to you by asking yourself, “Why are they my goals?”
- With a trusted advisor, develop a detailed action plan to reach your goals.
- Spend time visualizing how it will look and feel to actually accomplish your goals.
- Ask a trusted friend to be your accountability partner to help hold you accountable for reaching your goals.
- Always celebrate accomplishments that bring you closer to your goals.
In our next post, we will take up empathy, one of the two aspects of interpersonal emotional intelligence.
Meanwhile, if you are interested in learning about your own EQ and where you could stand to make improvement, shoot me an email and we’ll schedule an online assessment for you.
(Continue to Part 5: Five Empathy-Enhancing Tips to Strengthen Your Team)
(Return to Part 3: In Control or In a Mess? Regulating Your EQ)