Are You Self-Aware? Test Your EQ
[Part 2 of a 6-part series]
In The ABCs of Emotional Intelligence, we talked about the two dimensions of emotional intelligence
(EI): intrapersonal and interpersonal. Within those two dimensions are the five aspects of EI.
The intrapersonal aspects help you understand what is going on inside of you when you experience day-to-day events. In this post, we are peeking into the intrapersonal self-awareness aspect.
To begin to understand self-awareness, take note that there are seven true emotions that we deal with when talking about self-awareness and other intrapersonal aspects. They are: love, fear, hate, anger, joy, envy, and sadness.
The definition of self-awareness we are using here is your ability to “recognize and understand your moods, emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others.” In other words, self-awareness is your ability to self-assess and your self-confidence. With that in mind, consider the following statements:
- “I was so mad I hung up on her.”
- “I am upset about this meeting and I need time to calm down and think about it.”
- “I was so excited I forgot to save the presentation.”
Two of these statements reflect low levels of self-awareness. Can you pick them out?
If you chose A and C, you are right. Statement B comes from a person who recognizes and acknowledges their strong feelings and feels confident enough to step away from the situation to gain control.
Do you relate more to statements A and C, or to statement B? The good news about EI is that you can improve it. Following are five things you can do to begin to improve your self-awareness:
- Practice self-reflection. Recognize your emotional state throughout the day and look for patterns.
- Make a list of your strengths and areas for improvement. Look at it daily.
- Ask a family member or trusted advisor to describe your strengths and weaknesses. Compare what they say with your own self-assessment.
- Journal about your emotional responses to significant situations.
- Think about some situations that have triggered your emotions. Create a list of positive ways you can react to those situations to maintain your equilibrium.
If you work these activities, they will get you on the road to improved self-awareness.
Next time, we will look at self-regulation, which is your ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods and to suspend judgment and think before acting.
Meanwhile, if you are interested in finding out your emotional quotient (EQ), shoot me an email and we’ll schedule an assessment.
(Continue to Part 3: In Control or in a mess? Regulating your EQ)
(Return to Part 1: The ABCs of Emotional Intelligence)